Ms Cyprah

There is no such thing as one person being right in how they believe because belief is based on sheer perception, and perception is dictated by culture, gender, experience and personal aspirations. Thus the ‘truth’ will be many faceted. One person’s truth is likely to be someone else’s lie, depending on our alignments. No one person has a monopoly on the ‘truth’ because it really just boils down to our knowledge of the real facts, our desire to cooperate or to blame, and our own personal agenda to be significant, to be valued and to be included in what matters to us.

To cope with their routine lives, and the aspects which overwhelm them, people tend to develop belief systems which offer them security, comfort and a degree of control and power over others and their environment, of which, for example, the idea of a heaven that rewards them, and a hell, that punishes others, are core elements. It’s the most natural thing to do for inner contentment and sense of power. Such belief systems expand our knowledge of the world around us.

However, there is a difference between sharing that knowledge and imparting it with mutual respect than imposing that knowledge, whether that person wants to adhere to it or not. If we believe we are each responsible for our lives, then advising someone of the risks to themselves is permissible, and then leaving them to deal with those risks in their own way. However, coercing them into action, or damning them because they resist, is certainly not ’sharing’ in the true sense of the word. Every person has to be allowed to experience life in their own way, not in ours.

Thus anyone who prefers to start with assumptions about someone in their bid to prove anything merely appears self-righteous and all-knowing while losing credibility before they have even begun. For example, credit controllers etc., tend to make assumptions about people and money. But I do not believe there is any correlation between financial management and other life factors, except that people who manage their money well tend to be either financially savvy, adept at dealing with figures, more careful in that regard than others or are just good controllers. We can’t all be good at everything and so we individually have our strong points. Handling money has never been mine, no matter how good I have been with words, so I have quietly accepted it and done my best!

Does that make me less of a person than the next one? That would be up to you to decide, depending on your own beliefs and ready assumptions.

It is always easy to judge in stereotypes because it is quicker to assess someone negatively than to get to know them personally and acknowledge their individuality in a positive manner.

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