Ms Cyprah

How do you want it to be expressed to you? Which way of expression do you find more meaningful and romantic?

I love to hear the words ‘I Love You’, either face to face or over a telephone. It is the most beautiful statement of intent in a relationship, especially when said in front of a person where you can see the sincerity on that person’s face and see the love in their eyes. Yet many people find those words hard to express because they fear how the recipient will react.

It seems that most of the discrepancy between couples when expressing their love comes down to the type of person they are and how they see that expression taking shape. Some people like to show their love with gifts. They find it hard to say aloud and would prefer to let an item of love express that feeling for them. Other people believe that doing things for their loved ones should show their feelings enough and so they don’t have to say it. Worse still, they probably feel embarrassed being openly told “I Love You” or being given gifts, and might mistakenly believe that the other party doesn’t love them enough because they are not doing similar things to match.

“I Love You” is very poignant and beautiful, but many people also fear its consequences, just in case they say it to someone who then expects great things of them. So, sadly, they clam up. Or they might believe that uttering the immortal line ties them into a relationship forever and so they stay mum, robbing the friendship of its magic. But saying ‘I Love You’ does not predict anything about the future. It is mainly about the present and the depth of feeling we have for another significant person at this stage. It simply reflects our feelings for that moment in time.

In a week’s time you might not feel you love that person, for whatever reason. But just for that magical moment, ‘I Love You’ seems so right and should be shouted from the rooftops with joy!

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